Everyone enters their marriage expecting it to be easy. You’ve been with your spouse years before being married so you think you know each other well enough to commit the rest of your life to that person. But being in a relationship with a person is very different from being married to them. Once the wedding is over, you will have to live with that person, figure out how they spend their time, and get to know them without the “manners” portion of their personality. This can lead to many arguments and even some resentment. But if you truly love each other, you may be able to seek help with a certified marriage counselor. So how do you choose a marriage counselor to help your marriage? Let’s take a look at some questions you should ask your marriage counselor to figure out if they can help you.
“What is Your Background and Training in Marriage Counseling?”
As someone seeking marriage counseling, you can imagine that it is pretty important to ask about their background and training. While it is not uncommon to find a counselor that are self-taught, workshop-trained or event ones without any experience at all, these sessions may not be as helpful as working with a licensed marriage and family therapist or counselor. Marriage counseling is one of the most challenging forms of therapy to complete. This is why it is extremely important for you to work with a licensed counselor.
“Of the Couples You Have Treated, What Percent of Them Have Worked Out Their Problems? How Many Are Still in Therapy? And What Percentage Did No Improve?”
It is important to know what their success and failure rates are because it will help you understand how effective this therapist is. If their answer is below 70 percent, this therapist’s numbers are considered below average, according to studies on the effectiveness of marriage therapy. Find someone who will give you a realistic answer and real results.
“What is Your Experience of Working with Couples in My Situation?”
This question will help you figure out if you are working with the right licensed marriage counselor. Many different counselors specialize is different fields such as cohabiting, same-sex, chronic mental illnesses, and even infidelity. Explain your unique situation to your potential therapist to see if they have worked with someone in your situation and are willing to work with couples in your situation. At Family Service Foundation, we have a licensed marriage and family therapist on staff for you to work with. Don’t give up on your marriage yet, call us today!
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